Hard Days

Challenges happen to keep you grounded. Different situations occur to make you realize that you are only a human being who has every possibility of making mistakes and every possibility of breaking down into pieces. We don't know when it will or if it will happen, but one thing is for sure, you are never ready. You are never ready until that certain moment passes and hits you right through your soul and the only way to get out of it is to think on what you should do next.

We all know that people have different traits and different way of handling situations. People handle difficulties differently. There are people who become overly defensive in their situation, always looking for someone to defend them. There are people who just keep on going with life like as if their care in the world is gone (forever). There are people who just keep quiet and suck it all in and feel the pain all by themselves and just feel down or empty about life during those days and there are people who let it all out and laughs afterward.

No matter what kind of situation a person is facing or whoever that person is battling with misery I believe there is only one thing in common, we are all bound to feel incapable. Incapable of resolving anything, incapable of being a human being, incapable of moving forward. But that incapability is the only way for us to know and push ourselves to fight whatever it is that we are battling with. 

I have learned a lot in life  for the past 2 decades but the two (2) main principles in my life especially during those times that I am in a very difficult situation:

1) Whoever you are, always be a good one. Being a good person doesn't necessarily mean being perfect or not doing anything bad. Being a good one means being able to know the limits of humanity. Know when to stop, know when to help and when to seek for help, know when to ask, know how to act, know what to show, and when to show it. A person who always asks before they do a certain kind of move, like "is it proper?", "is it acceptable?" or "is this the right time?" will always have a way of understanding things/situations differently. It is as simple as know what you want first before speaking. Know what you mean first before letting other people know. Whatever state you are in your life, whether you are the richest man in the world, or the poorest man across the universe, whether you are the president of a country or an ordinary citizen of the world always choose to be good to others, no matter how annoying a person can be, always choose to be good because this way you'll be able to gain more patience and understand.

2) Always be kind. This is my second principle in life. Always be kind. Showing kindness/ being kind to other people won't kill you. Whether they accept your kindness or not, give it/ do it from the bottom of your heart. Show sincerity, show love, show honesty, show understanding. Be kind to people who are smiling at you, be kind to people who at least once in a while thinks about you, be kind to people who are mean to you, be kind and show them that no matter how much they hurt you, you won't easily devour in anger. Being kind will lead you to seeing the kindness of the other person. Being kind will keep you grounded all the time. 

Hard days will keep on coming. It is also uncertain when impossible people will come into your life to mess you up. Your family can be a mess sometimes too. You, yourself, can be a mess when you start to think about "what am I here for?" mantra but no matter how hard it gets always be good and show kindness to other people, to yourself, or to your family. Be the bigger person in the detailed picture of drastic emotions. Don't let emotions get into you. There will be times that it will be hard to forgive actions, situations, or people (it's okay) but try to not live y it. Eventually, try to forgive and just forget and live a life that you deserve.